You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

When writing a sympathy note, the most thoughtful way is to say what you truly feel.  A brief and heart-felt line or two expressing the genuine feeling you had for the deceased is always appreciated by those who are mourning their loss.  Try not to dwell on the details of an illness or the manner of death.  Other common but well-intended mistakes,  are saying such things as the loss is a “blessing in disguise” or “they’re in a better place now”.  This is little comfort to the emptiness the family is experiencing.  Always ask if there is anything you can do to help.  Often, just bringing a casserole or providing a dinner now and then in the first few weeks or months can be a huge help to the family.

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